We are all self-made

All people are self-made but only the successful ones will care to admit it.

We are all self made in the way that we are continuously being shaped by our ever changing thoughts, the belief systems we have grown up with, our past and present actions and habits. Our environment has a powerful impact on us, but the impact is determined by how we choose to respond and react to it.

If we want to develop the art of shaping our lives we way we want to, we need to take 100% responsibility for it. 

The great tragedy in life is that we dump the blame for our failures on others while we proudly take credit for our success. The human tendency is that we don’t want to take complete responsibility for our actions. If we by chance fall, we expect others to pick us up and then berate them for the downfall. This is human nature. On the other hand, if we are seated on the throne of victory, we want to take full credit for our triumph.

It’s obviously easy to blame others for our shortcomings. It’s easier to accuse your low grades on your teacher’s incompetence to teach rather than your own irresponsibility and lack of focus. When we blame others, we are also shifting our responsibility and hence, giving them the key to fix our problems which they obviously can not. Digging up excuses will again shift our responsibility to something else and will be like digging your own grave. Without owning our mistakes, we can never fix them. And without fixing them, we don’t get better.

The truth is that people can call themselves adults only if they can take 100% responsibility for themselves as it’s a step towards adulthood. 

Once we assume 100% responsibility for everything that has happened in our lives, we take ownership ofit.

If something has to be fixed, we need to fix it by ourselves, even if it was not our fault entirely. That’s what taking responsibility means.

Remember that we are the architects of our own destiny. Life is what we make, do with what is thrown at us and how we create marvels out of the scarp we got.

Unsuccessful people are in an endless vicious cycle of denial and blaming others, much like the wheel of fortune which unfortunately, does not move in their favour. Successful people on the other hand, know that ‘if it is to be, it’s up to me’.

Academy Award–winning actress, Katharine Hepburn stated, “We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to change, you’re the one who has got to change.”

We are all self made but only the successful ones will care to admit that fact about life. When people become successful, they use this to write inspiration into their stories and gloat in the pride like a valiant warrior after having conquered a kingdom.

Paul Robinson
Paul Robinson

is a leading motivational speaker, author and business strategist.