The power of association

The real planets that control your destiny are the people who move with you. 

The real planets that control your destiny are those not up in the sky. They are the people you choose to call family, friends and the circle of people you move around. In some cultures, people around us can grip in their paws like how the hawk holds it’s prey. Basically, people around you can make or break you. While some people can be the pillars of your success while some will push you down a pit of darkness leading you nowhere. So, whether good or bad, the people you closely associate with are literally shaping you, at least more than what your astrologers says the Jupiter is.

“No pauper is friend to the rich, no fool to the wise, no coward to the brave. An old friend—who needs him? It is two men of equal wealth and equal birth who contract friendship and marriage, not a rich man and a pauper…. An old friend—who needs him?’- THE MAHABHARATA, C. THIRD CENTURY B.C.

People change and as they move up, they change their circles. That’s just the way it is. The only company you must keep is the company of the people who will help you get better in life.

There is a popular saying ‘misery loves company’. Don’t ever mistake empathy for giving company to someone else misery.

Robert Greene and Joost Elffers in their book ‘The 48 Laws of Power’ writes, “You can die from someone else’s misery, emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate some times draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.”

It’s important to evaluate relationships and ask the question: Who adds value and who deducts value in your life? This does not mean that relationships are transactional. They are just relational but often we fail to read other’s intentions. Remember there are people who will love you for what you have and some will love you for who you are.

Hence, choose wisely and attract good people into your life. In order to do that, you need to filter the chaff from the grain and get rid of the bad ones. To introduce new and good books you have to clear up your shelf space. Likewise, make space for better relationships.

Connect with the right set of people. Always know what you can offer them in terms of value.

Think win – win while networking. Networking is not the exploitation of contacts but it is the exchange of value, support, friendship and camaraderie. 

One of the key secrets of success is just showing up among the right people. Here you get to connect with like minded people and grab mutually beneficial opportunities that would not have come to you otherwise, it’s simply being an opportunist.

Every successful individual has a support system in place. They have the right set of people whom they can trust, take advice from and ask for help when needed. Napoleon Hill called it the mastermind alliance. Build your own Rolodex.

There is a saying ‘your network equals your net-worth.’ You are the average of five people you hang out with. This means, if you believe in destiny, choose your planets carefully.